Why Your Self-Protection is Blocking Love 💔

Here’s the painful truth about guarding your heart and how to open to real love again

When you’ve been hurt in love, it’s only natural to want to protect yourself. You build walls, create boundaries, and do your best to avoid anything that might lead to more pain.

But what if I told you that the very act of protecting yourself is the reason love hasn’t shown up—or stuck around?

It’s ironic, but true: the energy of self-protection doesn’t attract love. It attracts more of what you’re trying to avoid—disappointment, disconnection, and even more hurt.

The Energetics of Self-Protection

When your heart gets broken, your nervous system kicks into survival mode. You vow never to let that happen again. So you start playing it safe. You become guarded, cautious, maybe even closed off.

But energetically, self-protection is rooted in fear and pain. And the law of attraction is always responding to the vibe you’re putting out—not the words you say or the affirmations you repeat.

So when your energy says, “I need to protect myself,” what the Universe hears is:

“I expect to be hurt again.”

And guess what shows up? More situations that match that expectation.

Look Back, Then Look Within

Think about it. When did you start protecting yourself in love? Was it after a betrayal, a heartbreak, or feeling unseen by someone you gave your heart to?

Now look at what’s happened since then. Who have you attracted into your life—or not attracted at all? Have your relationships become more fulfilling, or have they gotten more painful… or nonexistent?

That protective armor might have kept out pain, but it also kept out connection, intimacy, and love.

Breaking the Cycle

This cycle can go on for years. Many people stay in it for decades, wondering why love never seems to work for them.

They don’t realize that the energy of protection is the very thing repelling the love they crave.

And if you’re not careful, this pattern can lead to bitterness, hopelessness, and attracting partners who only mirror your wounds.

But it doesn’t have to be this way.

Real Love Begins With a New Signal

You can shift this energy. You can reset your love signal to attract the kind of relationship your heart truly desires—one built on trust, openness, safety, and soul connection.

That’s exactly why I created Aligned for Love: The Love Signal Reset Method—to help you break free from these energetic blocks, so you can stop waiting and start living the love you were always meant for.

Because time is precious. And real love? It’s worth not just waiting for—it’s worth aligning for.

💫 Ready to clear the blocks and attract your true match?
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You deserve love. Not just someday. Now.

Manifesting More by Doing Less

Manifesting Isn’t About Doing More! The key to attracting what you want isn’t adding more—it’s removing what’s in the way.

When we want to manifest something, we often think we need to do more—take more action, try more techniques, push harder to reach our goal. But in reality, most people actually need to do less.

As you make changes to manifest and add more, it can unintentionally pull you further from your goal.

You might follow steps that worked for someone else, try to be like someone you're not, or pile on extra "to-dos" in hopes of speeding up the process. But often, these extra pieces are what’s blocking you.

Think of these additions like puzzle pieces. If they don’t align with who you truly are at a soul level, they don’t help complete your picture—they just clutter the table, creating confusion and delays.

For most people, the key to manifesting isn’t adding more—it’s removing what doesn’t belong.

It’s about stripping away the distractions, the conditioning, and the inauthentic parts so that your true self can shine through.

💖 Manifesting Love Starts with Your True Signal

This is especially true when it comes to attracting love. Many people change themselves in hopes of being more attractive—acting differently, adjusting their energy, or trying to fit an image of what they think will draw love in.

But every extra "piece" that isn’t authentically you disrupts your true love signal and takes you further away from love.

It sends out mixed messages, attracting people who aren’t aligned with you and leaving you wondering why love isn’t flowing the way you want.

Instead of doing more, focus on letting go of what’s in the way. Your natural energy—your soul-level essence—is the most powerful magnet for love and all that you desire.

✨ If you’re ready to uncover who you are at soul level and clear away the blocks holding you back, I can help:

🔮 Soul Realignment Reading & Clearing – Remove the energetic barriers to your manifestations. Book here

I can also do that for you, use all my tools, support you each step of the way and so much more in:

💫 Aligned for Love: The Love Signal Reset Method – A deep, guided transformation to restore your natural love magnetism. Learn more

So instead of doing more, what can you eliminate today to let your true soul signal shine?



Are walls keeping love out?

I find so many clients that put up walls to protect themselves after being hurt. It is a natural reaction.

Unfortunately especially when it comes to love, those walls only ever protect you from love and not what you are trying to protect yourself from.

It causes you to attract guarded people and becomes a vicious cycle of getting hurt over and over.

It actually causes you to attract what you were trying to avoid in the first place. 

The walls you put up to protect yourself are causing you the most hurt of all.

This is one of the many things that sends out the wrong love signal and becomes a long cycle of attracting wrong partners and more hurt over and over. 

I don't want you to continue wasting time in that cycle! I can help!

Let me help you stand in your power and not need the walls in the first place so you can attract a real love.

Let me help you send out the right love signal and stop that cycle in my Fix Your Love Signal Package:

https://www.psychicmediumreadingsbykristine.com/shop/fix-your-love-signal-package

What love order are you placing?

Just like manifesting in all life areas, when you are trying to attract love, what you are getting, your results, IS what you are ordering. That is what your love signal is sending out. 

So if you are in a restaurant and you place an order you get what you ordered.

So let's say you are only attracting neglectful love partners, that is because that is the order your love signal is placing. 

If you don't change what you are ordering, what your signal is sending out, you will always get the same order over and over.

So in love that looks like a new relationship but with the same issues as the last one.

That becomes so frustrating and if changes aren't made you end up stuck in that same cycle over and over.

Then you tell yourself that there are no good love partners left and feel disillusioned and that only makes it even harder to find love. 

And if you aren't attracting anyone at all, there is a block in sending your signal that needs to be looked into. 

And sometimes attracting no one at all can be a sign of progress if you are coming from attracting really wrong partners. It can mean your signal is resetting to work on attracting better. 

Either way some tweaking needs to be done to get that signal to place the right order for you. 

I don't want you to waste anymore time placing the wrong love order over and over.

I know how frustrating it can feel like being on a hamster wheel you can never get off of and don't even know how.

I can help you with that and so much more in the Fix Your Love Signal Package:

https://www.psychicmediumreadingsbykristine.com/shop/fix-your-love-signal-package

Using your purpose to find love!

So why is living your purpose vital to finding love?

As I say over and over, being aligned to who you are at soul level and using your purpose gift is most important when trying to manifest anything. 

When it comes to love if you are misaligned from your purpose gift you are not sending out a love signal that is truly yours.

You aren't fully being your true self, so any signal you send out to attract a partner will not be attracting a partner for you. 

When you do that you can waste so much time attracting for someone else and it is so frustrating.

You don't know you are doing it and don't understand why you can't find love. 

If you are wanting to manifest anything in your life you must be your true authentic self.

You must be living as who you are at soul level and aligned to your purpose gift or anything you build won't be on a solid foundation and can crumble any time. 

So most important is for you to keep adding and aligning with your purpose gift to ensure you can create the life you want! 

Unfortunately over many lifetimes we all get disconnected from our purpose and who we are at soul level so it can be so hard to even know. That is something I can help you with. 

I can help you with that and so much more in the Fix Your Love Signal Package:

https://www.psychicmediumreadingsbykristine.com/shop/fix-your-love-signal-package

I can also get your purpose gift info and who you are at soul level for you in a Soul Realignment Reading And Clearing:

https://www.psychicmediumreadingsbykristine.com/shop/soul-realignment-reading

The most important thing in all you do is to always come back to who you are at soul level so you can live your best life and not someone else's life! 

What is a learning relationship?

So what is a learning relationship? Before we find our highest love we have learning relationships.

This is why sometimes we end up with the same circumstances over and over but just with new people.

We must learn what these relationships are there to teach us in order to be ready for real love.

We have to have learned what we need to and be in the right place for love or we just keep getting stuck in learning relationships.

Be sure to look at the common themes in past relationships and see what you can learn from them so you can stop that cycle and attract love instead. 

We do of course keep learning from our highest love as well but we must be to a certain point in our learning to be ready for our long term love. 

Learning relationships are like training wheels on a bike. You wish you could just start without them but you'd fall on your face.

You need to be prepared and ready before you go training wheel free!.

If you are tired of the same cycle of similar wrong and or neglectful partners over and over and I can help you out of that cycle in my Fix Your Love Signal Package! Get out of that cycle and into love:

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